Thursday, January 30, 2014

The good, the bad, and the really ugly


At my first temp position, I met Janice. Janice worked in our Ocala office, so we communicated through email. She wrote funny emails and was a hoot. I liked her. We began emailing each other jokes and funnies daily.

In the meantime, I was busy fielding phone calls and trying to learn the ins and outs of selling furniture. Oh, and trying to keep up with my incredibly busy – hardly ever in the office – sales people, Mike and Buffy.

One of the many times I was left to “fend for myself” – literally, the lone admin answering phones and entering orders – I emailed Janice a question. She responded right away, answering my question quickly and in an in-depth way, so I understood why. It was great – my boss, Stephanie, usually just told me how to make the software work – I never really got the why part of my question answered. So I started asking Janice the “whys” more often. I began to get to know Mike and Buffy’s routines and started to feel a bit more comfortable.

Mind you, I was still regularly being left alone. If Stephanie wasn’t there, I couldn’t ask Cyndy, my other coworker. She would never take the time to answer a question for me, no matter how simple it was. Her response? It wasn’t her job – I heard, quite a few times. So I either tried to figure it out on my own, asked my sales people (when they were in), or emailed Janice. Janice became my rock: she was always there, she was patient with me, and she always had an answer.

This job was temp-to-perm after 90 days. At 60 days, I felt I was going to be hired. Stephanie seemed happy with my work, if a bit preoccupied. I chalked it up to being a mom – she had 2 kids – a girl and boy – and *always* seemed to be taking them somewhere. Cyndy had an ADD/HD son who frequently acted out which, being a single parent, forced her to take off work to go get him.

At some point, Janice mentioned that she had noticed how often I was alone, manning the phones. Where was Stephanie? Cyndy? It became something that Janice and I bonded over – her salesman frequently was out of the office, leaving her alone in the Ocala showroom for long stretches of time. She would joke with me – “What, no Stephanie? Cyndy’s out *again*?”

Something had changed in the office – Stephanie was now visibly cooler with me. I would come back from the bathroom to find Stephanie and Cyndy whispering, only to stop when they saw me. It was like high school all over again.

At day 75, I made a comment to Stephanie about how close I was getting to permanent status. The next day, I had a call from Jason at the agency saying that I had to complete 1,000 hours before I was eligible for permanent status. This new requirement would push me into month five (or 120 days)! Frustrated, but willing to go with the flow, I shared with Janice what had happened.

Janice told me that she’d made a comment to Stephanie about “how great I was doing.” Stephanie concurred, Janice said, so that was good news, right? Further, Stephanie had indicated to her that my sales people were happy with me. So I felt buoyed that this permanent position was becoming a reality. Sick days, vacation days, benefits.....all things I didn’t have while a temporary worker.

At the end of the second month, I again mentioned to Stephanie that I was excited about nearly being perm. Again, I got that coolness from her and later that afternoon, she went to talk to David, the owner. For an hour. In his office. With the door shut. It was unusual, to be sure. She ended up leaving early that day. David came to see me with just 30 minutes left in the day.

I was excited! This was it – he was gonna offer me the position!! “Vicki, we really like you…” he began and then as I listened, it dawned on me – I wasn’t being hired – I was being fired!! “….there are just too many emails flying around….” Wait – what did he just say?!

“David, you don’t like my work? I’ve had nothing but positive feedback from Mike and Buffy….”

“Vicki, we really like you, but we don’t feel you’re a good fit for our office.” As it hit me, I started crying. I tried to stop it but the harder I tried the harder they fell. He continued, “You’re right; Mike and Buffy really aren’t very happy with me right now because they both really liked you and were happy with your work.”

HUH?!

“Well, Vicki, it’s just the emails flying here and there. You’ll find something. You’re smart and have a lot going for you. In fact, Jason says he has another position for you.” (Jason was my employment agency contact.)

Have you figured out why I was fired?

Because my supervisor was getting blind-carbon copied on every one of my emails to Janice. Including the ones where it was mentioned how often Stephanie and Cyndy were out. And not even my sales people could save me from the wrath of Stephanie.

The good … was meeting Janice. She and I have remained friends, going so far as to meet in Ocala and cook together. She has been the best “cheerleader” a person could ask for; a tireless reminder that even in the darkest of days, the sun shines. Had I never met Stephanie, I would never have met Janice.
The bad …. was being left alone to fight for myself, figure it out.
The really ugly … realizing my supervisor read every one of my emails.


Bottom line: Some bonding is best left to the professionals.

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Appreciate your life



One of the hardest-learned lessons I gained by going through this experience is to appreciate your life(style)

By that I mean to look around and appreciate what you have in your life now - currently - rather than living in the "what can I get next?" tunnel vision most of us actively practice. 

This next example is purely material, but you could apply it liberally to emotional, mental, or financial health equally well. 

I have a smartphone, a recent-model tablet, a nice laptop, a 5-year old desktop with dual monitors, a printer/fax/scanner, a label printer..... I'm not bragging or asking to be robbed - believe me! I just think it bears mentioning that it's easy to focus on the "next best thing," especially in our market-driven society - but sometimes, even if it's only for a little while - you've got to let your foot off the gas.

We've all heard it - "stop and smell the roses" - but it is an expression that bears repeating because it is all too true. If you don't stop to look around every once in a while, how are you ever going to appreciate what you have?   






Don't rush it. Breathe. Think about it. Let it wash over you, as you listen to your computer humming in front you.....appreciate what you have.  Using this moment to take stock of what you have in your life doesn't cost anything....use an inordinate amount of time....or keep you from going back to what you were doing before. It just gives you a moment to breathe deeply, listen, think, and return to your previous activities feeling more relaxed, appreciative, and cared for. That's right, you are caring for yourself. And how simple the trip!


You may now return your seats to the upright position. This concludes our metaphysical lesson for the day. 









Sunday, January 26, 2014

Mad skills!




Hello, digital world. I am "taking to the airwaves" to discuss the lessons I've learned during 2013, by far the most difficult year of my life.

On paper, the stats are this: I lost my job of 7 years, seemingly out of spite, in April of last year. I was hurt, stung, and terribly shocked, but I thought (as I'm sure we've all thought at one time or another)..."I've got *mad* skills. No problem. I'll get a job ASAP."

The times....they were a'changin'. I knew that the economics were against me; theoretically, at least. I mean, I heard the news; I knew that it was rough out there. What really threw me for a loop was my conviction that those tough times simply didn't apply to me. After all, I had *mad* skills! The reality of the situation is that I did not get a permanent position until December 30th of 2013.

The blogs that I'm going to post will follow the obstacles I faced with limited financial resources and a creative mind. 





Thanks for reading. I hope you enjoy.